Hey there! Steph here.
There’s this great quote attributed to Anais Nin that sums up why I became a self-care and resilience coach: “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
That’s it. That’s the short version why I (mostly) left my day job to become a healer.
The long version is, well, long. By age 35, I was a very successful lawyer. I worked as a partner at a prestigious law firm, a job I earned at the ripe old age of 33, I received various accolades from the legal community, and was an expert in my practice area. I was, as they say, at the top of my game.
But being at the top of my game came with a crapload of stress, which manifested in various, terrible ways. I lacked patience and was always angry. I had incessant heartburn. My lungs burned when I breathed. My vegetarian diet consisted of junk and my exercise routine involved little more than running a few miles a month. I drank A LOT and if I wasn’t a functional alcoholic, I was something close to it.
Things came to a head on October 3, 2014. On that day, I was in a town about 2 hours’ drive from my house involved in a court thing that lasted about 4 hours too long. I remember driving home from that too-long day and found myself becoming angrier and angrier for no reason. When I got home, I yelled, and I do mean YELLED, at my husband about nothing in particular when, all of the sudden, a light bulb appeared. It became abundantly clear that remaining in the tight bud of my particular law job no longer worked.
After a lot of soul-searching, meditating, and with family and friends cheering me on, I reevaluated and cleaned up my drinking and eating habits. In the process, I gained a lot of clarity and realized that the food on my plate and drink in my cup mirrored life’s big stuff: my relationships, my mental health, my (lack of) self-care, and most jarring of all, my career. I finally understood that my full-time legal practice as it then exisited damaged my soul, which caused me to drown the emptiness with alcohol, food, and a general disdain about myself. I immediately began the process of separating myself from that level of law to focus on ME and MY self-care. In January 2015, I enrolled in the Institute for Integrative Nutrition’s Holistic Health Coaching program and became a personal trainer. Then, most importantly for me and my self-care, in January 2016, I resigned as partner of that law firm.
Today, although I still practice law part-time for a different law firm (changing law firms, by the way, turned out to be key in taking care of myself), I practice on my terms and with a light, loving heart. Supporting you in achieving your self-care and resilience goals remains my soul-fulfilling purpose.
Don’t just take my word for it…
Stephanie listens – really listens. During our phone conversations, she is great at asking the right questions, and paraphrasing what I’ve said to ensure that she understands correctly. I never feel like she’s waiting for me to finish so that she can speak.
Second, when Stephanie does talk, it’s worth listening to. She has a tremendous depth of knowledge about nutrition, exercise, and overall well-being, and she pulls from that knowledge base to offer concrete practices to address my concerns, from practicing mindfulness to strategies for reducing sugar consumption. She seems to have an endless supply of alternatives for the ones that don’t work. (Most of them work.)
Third, I come away from talking with Stephanie just feeling better about life in general. She has a special gift and she shares it in a way that makes others comfortable and at ease, while she’s helping push them to try new things.Becky D.
It was time for me to get back on track with my exercise plan and wellness. I asked Stephanie to work with me in order to build a gradual plan for exercise, allowing for some of my current body weaknesses and injuries, so that I would be ready for a series of 5ks starting a few months out. She developed a great plan for me focused on building strength and endurance, as well as check-in times for discussion about my challenges and ongoing needs. She listened to my concerns and built a program that fits me and my goals. I know that as we move forward she will continue to help me meet my current goal and will encourage me to develop new and more substantial goals. I feel supported and challenged in just the right measures!Nicolle C.